I agree with Steve, you shouldn't be lnkioog elsewhere outside of your marriage. Work on that!Why are you already planning on divorce when the kids get older? I would try to work on what I already have than wishing and planning for something that's not even there. Online lovers are usually never what you think of them once you meet them in person. You don't even know him(other than by words on a computer screen. He could be using a phony identity, fake pics and stories,etc ) and may even find you don't even like him! And yes, it is a sin.